Tend to the
life you desire

Yet creating the life you want is harder than it sounds. You may have already tried: taken a bold step, met familiar resistance, and ended up back where you started, now with self-recrimination layered on top.

This is our self-protective nature at work. We all develop patterns that keep us safe from past pain. They don't simply step aside when we decide we want something new, and faithfully try to keep us from what once caused us pain.

So one part of us desires change, all while something else actively resists it. We end up feeling locked in an inner tug-of-war. Both sides pulling in different directions, neither stopping to listen or understand the wider context.

The paradox is that change unfolds when we can be present with what's actually here.

We do this by slowing down and listening to your inner world through reflective conversation and embodied practices. You might sense an emotion, a memory, an image, or a felt sense that hasn't yet found words. Whatever arises, I help you meet it so its expression can unfold. From that relationship, new self-understanding and insight will emerge in ways that support clarity and action.

What might you discover if you slowed down enough to listen?

The territories of self-expression my work focuses on are creative work and vocation, love and partnership, sexuality and intimacy, and liminal moments before or after big decisions, when life is asking to change shape.

As gay men, we want to express ourselves fully, and that desire runs up against unconscious defenses that learned to keep aspects of ourselves hidden. We work together by listening for what’s true for you, and finding how best to express it outwardly.

As creatives and founders, we often have brilliant ideas and yet get in our own way with self-doubt, distraction, or losing trust in our own instincts. Together we explore the deeper layers beneath these patterns, and find how to welcome what we’re trying to protect alongside what we’re building.