Awaken Through Pleasure.
Reclaim Your Wholeness. ✨

Sacred touch on Fire Island for mature men and other curious souls.

Are you ready to awaken through pleasure and reclaim your wholeness?

This is an invitation into sacred touch for mature men: an explorative experience of conscious erotic touch designed to support self-awakening.

Erotic energy—our source of passion and pleasure—is one of the most vital forces for feeling alive, creative, and whole. Yet so often, we are taught to judge or hide our erotic selves. We live in a culture that shames both the erotic, the queer, and the aging body. We end up confused and disconnected from our desires.

Yet, as we grow, the soul continues to beckon us into authentic expressions of self. We find ourselves less driven by performance and more curious about presence. Less hungry for imagined fantasy and more called to the intimacy of reality.

A sacred touch session invites your erotic curiosity to emerge in a safe container and supports you in deepening your relationship with yourself at this transformative phase of your life.

Disclaimer: This is a consensual, erotic container rooted in healing, not therapy or licensed massage. You are paying for time and presence; what unfolds arises between us in mutual respect and sacred intention.

Why explore your relationship to pleasure?

What if your capacity for erotic fulfilment deepens as you age?

What if pleasure is a doorway back to an experience of wholeness?

What if playful erotic exploration and personal fulfilment are intrinsically intertwined?

These questions have no fixed answers.

The invitation in a sacred touch session is to explore your answers through your own direct, embodied erotic experience. To notice what surfaces as you come home to your body, yourself, and when we honor your desire as a sacred part of what makes you human, alive, and whole.

Curious to know more?

  • Sessions run for 90 minutes and cost $300. Cash or venmo preferred and taken at the end of our time. 

    Sessions take place on a massage table in a covered space at a private residence in Fire Island Pines. The space is partially open to the outdoors with mosquitos controlled by a repellent system. The address and details on getting there are provided upon booking confirmation.

    Most people prefer to arrive freshly showered for their own comfort. There is space to hang your clothes, and the optional use of an outdoor shower—any showers pre or post can be factored into the 90-min session time.

    Fresh sheets and towels are provided for your comfort and hygiene. Refreshments are also available upon request. You do not need to bring anything else specific with you.

  • Our time together is like an unfolding erotic dance. Though I may take the lead, you help guide me toward where we continue to go.

    I use my experience with the body and mind to support you in feeling comfortable, safe, and present to whatever is arising. We slow down and listen to your body. We notice the things that feel good, and anything that doesn’t. We allow your desires, arousal, and emotions to arise without judgment or expectation. Through slow touch, erotic presence, and communication, we co-create an experience where all of you is welcomed.

    Breath, erections, sound, tears, movement, pauses, and even release: all are welcomed, and none are expected or required. 

    Whatever arises, we meet with presence and curiosity. This is a time to drop any fixed sense of what should happen and to stay close to what wants to happen in the moment—a chance to explore your pleasure in a safe, welcoming, and supportive space, and to feel the truth, beauty, and goodness of your feelings and desires as they arise. 

    This is not massage therapy or psychotherapy. Rather, it is a rare and sacred experience of embodied companionship. A healing ritual of erotic integration and self-reclamation.

  • Each session is time-bound to 90 minutes and devoted to your pleasure, growth, and erotic integration. Before we begin, we’ll discuss the type of touch and pressure you enjoy, and any particular requests or no-go zones. I will respect these fully.

    I offer my full presence, touch, and guidance for your pleasure. However, my body is not available as part of the experience. This keeps the focus of the experience on your own experience of receiving pleasure.

    I will never shame or punish the desire to reach out and touch, to include and give in return. Instead, I will gently and lovingly guide you back to focus your awareness on your own experience.

    There is always more in your experience to explore and to open up to.

  • This experience is open to all bodies, gender identities, ages and races—we are, after all, all erotic beings worthy of devotion. 

    I am a middle-aged gay man particularly drawn to support mature gay men and other curious souls in their erotic and personal journeys.

    Anyone who feels the call to awaken through pleasure and reclaim their integrated sense of aliveness: you are welcome here. Anyone who connects with the invitation on this page: you are welcome here.

    If you have any questions, please feel free to reach out to hello@iamreadyforgrowth.com

“We live in an anti-ecstatic society based on the conceived separation between flesh and spirit. We are encouraged and taught to repress our sexual nature, to doubt our mystical and spiritual nature, and to fear whatever does not conform to conventional behavior. But when we ignore the sacredness of life and the possibility of living life ecstatically, we risk losing our self—our soul—in the process.”

— Margot Anand

Ready to awaken through pleasure?

Your guide on this sacred journey.

Hi! I am Stephen, an erotic guide and coach based between Fire Island Pines and New York City.

My own coming out journey began 25 years ago at a British boarding school. Sadly, this is not a story of fun sexual play with friends, but rather one of deep-rooted fear and shame.

Instead, at the tender age of 13, my body sensed the danger of my desires. With no guiding love or support, my emerging erotic truth became stuck deep within me, buried beneath fear and shame.

Over the ensuing decades, and with my own gradual experiences of erotic awakening, I came to see the unbreakable link between my sense of aliveness and the conscious expression of my sexual desires.

Now, I seek to create conscious erotic experiences for people to explore their own inner relationship between pleasure, play, shame and fear.

Your body is the gateway to presence and pleasure. By tuning into it—by breathing, feeling, moving—we remember ourselves back to clarity, aliveness, and wholeness.

I have over 350 hours of private personal coaching experience and have completed training with Aletheia Coaching, Body Electric School, MMX, and I am enrolled with ISEE in their Sacred Sexuality Instructor training.

A few words of encouragement…

If you are noticing something in you respond to this invitation—something that wants you to connect with your deeper self through pleasure—I encourage you to take a chance and say "Yes”. I know it can also feel scary, and I welcome that part of you, too. It would be my honor to safely and lovingly guide you on your ongoing sacred journey.

Ready to explore your relationship to pleasure and reclaim your wholeness?

“All contemplative practices have the same aim: to help us see through the deceptions of self and world and listen for the sound of the genuine' within and around us. Thus, contemplation is any way one has of penetrating illusion and touching reality.”

— Parker Palmer