Awaken through pleasure.
Reclaim your wholeness.

✨ Erotic Coaching for Self-Discovery ✨

Do you long to feel more at home in your body—more alive, more connected, more free?

This is a space for safe, shame-free conversation—an invitation to explore your erotic self with curiosity and care. Together, we’ll look at what might be holding you back from fully embracing pleasure and yourself, and reconnect with desire as a powerful source of healing, clarity, and inner alignment.

Why explore the erotic? 🥰🏳️‍🌈😈

In a culture that discourages playful expression, difference, and pleasure, many gay men grow up learning to hide the parts of ourselves that feel unlovable. We’re taught—often silently—that something in us is too much, too tender, or simply wrong.

So we adapt. We suppress our softness, our sensuality, our truth. Our erotic energy—one of the most vital, life-affirming forces within us—is often the first part we learn to exile.

Even after coming out, many of us still struggle to reclaim a full sense of self. We strive to prove our worth, while quietly longing for deeper connection. Nightlife, fantasy, and other escapes can open meaningful doors, yet often leave something untouched.

What if consciously welcoming your erotic energy, precisely because it was shamed, holds the key to your healing?

Reclaiming it isn’t just about sex—it’s about coherence. It’s about remembering your wholeness, and melting the shame that kept you from it.

Why Fire Island? 🔥🏝️✨

Fire Island has long been a place of liberation, experimentation, and beauty. It calls us to play, to shed shame, to explore new parts of ourselves and remember parts we’ve left behind.

This erotic coaching work doesn’t ask you to leave that behind. It asks if you’re ready to bring more of yourself with you here to this queer, sandy paradise.

In the midst of the freedom, the sparkling sea air, and the celebratory atmosphere, what if you also claimed some space to go deeper? To listen inwardly?

Could this island of escape also be a place of return?

If something in you stirs while reading this—curiosity, desire, a quiet yes—I invite you to reach out.

Ready to consciously explore your relationship to pleasure? ✨

“We live in an anti-ecstatic society based on the conceived separation between flesh and spirit… But when we ignore the sacredness of life and the possibility of living life ecstatically, we risk losing our self—our soul—in the process.”

— Margot Anand

This is a space for brave, curious exploration—a rare chance to meet your erotic self not as a problem, but as a source of wisdom. If you're wondering what a session looks like, these sections will help clarify.

Curious to know more?

  • Every coaching conversation is co-created. I hold the space and guide the flow, but your experience leads.

    We begin by tuning in with what brings you here, what you're sensing, what you're curious about. Then we follow the thread: exploring your relationship to desire, to your body, to the parts of you that have been quieted or hidden.

    Through gentle inquiry, somatic noticing, parts dialogue, and breath, we invite your erotic energy to speak. You don’t need to perform or prepare. We simply listen to what’s true.

    This is space for discovering what pleasure, power, and self-connection mean for you right now.

  • Every session is spacious, conversational, and guided by your intention. While unscripted, the arc usually flows like this:

    1. Opening & Grounding (5–10 minutes)
     We begin by slowing down. A few grounding breaths or meditative practices help us arrive together. You can name intentions, curiosities, or any hesitation. You don’t need to be clear: we start exactly where you are.

    2. Guided Exploration (40-50 minutes)
    Through dialogue and somatic awareness, we explore your connection to desire, pleasure, body, and self-expression. We may work with protective parts or subtle felt senses. Whether excitement, silence, insight or tears, we welcome whatever arises.

    3. Integration & Reflection (10-15 minutes)
    We close by gathering and reflecting on what’s come up in our time together. We name what shifted and note what you may want to carry forward. You’ll leave with more clarity around your erotic unfolding and how to keep listening inward. I may offer simple experiments or practices to continue the momentum.

    Optional Follow-Up
    Each session comes with a complimentary 15-min, virtual follow up within two weeks. For those wanting to continue the work, I offer virtual integration check-ins and multi-session packages. Just ask.

  • Format
    Sessions are private, one-on-one coaching conversations, either in person (Fire Island Pines) or over Zoom. No physical touch is involved—this is an attuned, confidential space for unfolding your relationship to erotic energy and self.

    Length & Rate
    Each session is 75 minutes and costs $250. Payment is collected after the session via Stripe (virtual) or Venmo/cash (for in-person). Sliding scale may be available on a needs-basis—just ask.  A 15 minute integration call within two weeks of your session is included at no extra cost.

    Location (in-person)
    In-person sessions can take place at your home on Fire Island or in nature. Any setting that is private, calm and relaxed, with the ability to avoid interruptions will do.

  • I offer a space that is confidential, emotionally safe, and trauma-informed—shaped by both professional training and personal experience.

    We’ll explore topics that may be intimate, vulnerable, or charged. Everything shared is held in complete confidence, in line with ICF ethics. You are welcome to bring your full, complex, glorious self. Everything is met with reverence and care.

    You’ll never be asked to go further than you’re ready for. I guide the process, but you set the pace. If resistance, emotion, or uncertainty arises, we’ll welcome it with curiosity and work with it gently as part of the journey.

    If you’re unsure whether this space is right for you, feel free to reach out with questions.

  • This work is especially for gay men—and for anyone drawn to exploring their erotic self in a shame-free, judgment-free way.

    You might be longing to reconnect with your body and desires.
    You might feel blocked around pleasure or self-expression.
    You may carry shame, fear, or confusion about your erotic self and want to loosen its grip.
    You might simply be curious about what’s possible when you relate to your erotic energy with more compassion.

    Whether you feel stuck, playful, open, or uncertain—you are welcome here.

    This is a space where all of you is invited to be seen, listened to, and slowly unfold.

    Questions? Reach out: hello@iamreadyforgrowth.com

“For the erotic is not a question only of what we do; it is a question of how acutely and fully we can feel in the doing. Once we know the extent to which we are capable of feeling that sense of satisfaction and completion, we can then observe which of our various life endeavors bring us closest to that fullness.”

― Audre Lorde, Uses of the Erotic: The Erotic as Power

Your companion on this inner journey.

Hi, I’m Stephen: a coach and erotic guide based between Fire Island Pines and New York City.

My own coming out began 25 years ago at a British boarding school. It wasn’t a joyful awakening, but a path shaped by fear and shame. At 13, my body learned it wasn’t safe to express desire. With no guidance or support, I buried that part of myself.

Over time, as I reclaimed my erotic self, I discovered something essential: aliveness and desire are inseparable. When we explore erotic energy consciously and without shame, it can reconnect us to our bodies, our power, and our wholeness.

Today, I create safe, supportive spaces for men to explore their relationship to pleasure, desire, and self—places where nothing needs to be hidden, and everything can belong.

Each of us holds inner gateways to presence and aliveness. When we slow down and listen to our mind, body and soul—through sensation, breath, language, and emotion—we begin to remember who we truly are.

I’ve guided over 350 hours of private coaching, and trained with Aletheia Coaching, the Body Electric School, MMX, and ISEE’s Sacred Sexuality Instructor training (in progress through 2025).

Words of encouragement…

If something gently stirs in you as you read—a flicker of curiosity, a quiet ache—I invite you to follow it.

You don’t need to feel certain. You don’t need to have it all figured out. You simply need to sense a willingness to be in honest conversation with yourself.

This space is here for all of you: your questions, longings, resistances, hopes. It’s a space to speak the things you’ve kept quiet, to meet parts you’ve exiled, and to explore what your erotic energy might be trying to show you.

It would be my honor to walk beside you as you explore, reclaim, and remember who you are.

With warmth,
Stephen

Reclaim your erotic self ✨

“Feeling good is not frivolous, it is a measure of freedom—not just the physical freedom of the body to pursue the pleasures of the flesh, but also the mental, emotional, and spiritual freedom to feel content, happy, and present in our brief and potent lives.”

— Adrienne Maree Brown, The Power in Pleasure