Awaken through pleasure.
Reclaim your wholeness.

✨ Sacred touch for self-discovery ✨

Would you like to feel more at home in your body? Would you like to feel more pleasure?

In a culture that frowns on play, expression, and pleasure, many of us grow up learning to hide the parts of ourselves that feel unlovable. As gay men, we often carry added shame around our erotic energy—taught early to fear, suppress, or exile this vital part of who we are.

Even after coming out, many of us still struggle to fully reclaim ourselves. We seek reconnection through nightlife, fantasy, or escape—beautiful, necessary portals in their own right—but often find it hard to consciously be with the fullness of our erotic selves.

Our erotic energy is often one of the first parts of us to be exiled—and the last we learn to reclaim. But when we do, we often discover it’s not just about sex. It’s about unlocking our aliveness, dissolving old shame, and returning to inner alignment.

What if welcoming your pleasure could change everything?

A sacred touch session is an intentional, embodied space to meet your erotic self as a powerful inner guide. It’s a container for discovering desire as a pathway back to wholeness—an invitation to return.

Through breath, touch, and presence, you’ll explore what becomes possible when pleasure is welcomed and cherished.

Here on Fire Island—a place long known for freedom, beauty, and experimentation—you’re invited to go deeper. To explore whether the most radical path forward might not be escape, but return.

Ready to consciously explore your relationship to pleasure? ✨

“We live in an anti-ecstatic society based on the conceived separation between flesh and spirit… But when we ignore the sacredness of life and the possibility of living life ecstatically, we risk losing our self—our soul—in the process.”

— Margot Anand

Why consciously explore your relationship to pleasure?

What if the parts of you you’ve hidden hold the key to your freedom?

What if your erotic energy isn’t a problem to solve, but a source of inner wisdom to be cultivated?

What if shame could be met—and melted—through conscious touch and presence?

These questions have no fixed answers.

A sacred touch session invites you to explore your answers through direct, embodied experience; to notice what arises as you come home to your body and honor desire as a sacred expression of your humanity.

Are you ready to step into curiosity and see what emerges?

Curious to know more?

I hope the spirit and intention of a sacred touch session has been conveyed above, but to help clarify and ground the details of our time together, I’ve prepared the following additional information. Enjoy!

  • Our time together is a shared, unfolding dance. I take the lead while you guide what unfolds.

    We begin with gentle conversation to explore your intentions and any relevant context. As we move into touch, you’ll start on your front while I support you in grounding, breath, and awakening your body to pleasure. On your back, we continue to deepen into aliveness and awareness.

    Throughout, we slow down and listen to your body. Unlike so much of life, this is not a place for performance. Nothing is expected or required; you are welcome exactly as you are.

    This is time to let go of what “should” happen and stay close to what wants to happen: a sacred, spacious experience of embodied presence, erotic integration, and self-reclamation.

  • Each sacred touch session unfolds uniquely, but here's a general arc to help you know what to expect:

    1. Opening Conversation (5–10 minutes)
     We begin by exploring your relationship to aging, your body, and pleasure. I’ll ask a few questions to support you in arriving fully and to help guide the session. We’ll also review expectations and boundaries together.

    2. Grounding Touch (≈35 minutes, on your front)
     As you settle on the table, I guide you into deep, connected breath. Using slow, intuitive touch—such as rocking, tapping, compression, and gentle strokes—I support you in relaxing your nervous system and awakening sensation. Optional hot towels may be used as a symbolic purification ritual.

    3. Transition & Check-In
     When you turn onto your back, I’ll check in with you and guide deeper breath. This transition helps bring your awareness more fully into the front of your body and into your erotic core.

    4. Erotic Energy Work (≈30 minutes, on your back)
    This phase includes pelvic touch, guided breath and sound, and energy movement throughout the body. With presence and consent, we may explore your pelvic floor, inner thighs, and genitals. I’ll introduce simple breath and muscle engagement practices to help move erotic energy.

    5. Aftercare & Integration (≈15 minutes)
     We complete with gentle full-body touch, light cocooning with the sheet, and often a period of stillness—such as cradling the head to support your integration.

    6. Optional Follow-Up Call
    For those who wish, I offer a 20–30 minute integration call within a week of the session to support reflection, questions, or continued unfolding.

  • Sessions are 90 minutes with an optional 20 min virtual follow-up call for integration.

    This service is offered for $325 in-line with my private coaching rates. Cash or Venmo is preferred and collected at the end of our time together. Package discounts can be negotiated if booking multiple sessions.

    Sessions take place on a massage table in a covered, private space in Fire Island Pines—partially open to the outdoors and protected by a mosquito repellent system. Full address and details are shared upon booking confirmation.

    Most guests prefer to arrive freshly showered. There’s space to hang your clothes, and an optional outdoor shower—any shower time (before or after) is included in your 90 minutes.

    Fresh sheets and towels are provided. Refreshments are available upon request. You don’t need to bring anything else.

  • Each session is 90 minutes and focused on your pleasure, growth, and erotic integration.

    We begin with an opening conversation to explore what feels most alive for you and to surface your preferences—types of touch, pressure, requests, and any no-go zones—all of which I will fully honor. You’re also welcome to share anything about your body, erotic history, or present emotions that feel relevant to your experience.

    During the session, I offer my full presence, touch, and guidance in service to your exploration of pleasure and healing. While I will be offering touch to your body, my body is not available for your touch or participation. This is a firm and loving boundary I uphold in every session.

    If a desire to reach out arises, it will never be shamed. I will gently guide you back to your own embodied experience of receiving.

    Clarity creates safety. I’ll communicate my boundaries clearly and consistently so you can relax into receiving and explore the depth of your own embodied experience.

  • I’m a gay man who especially loves supporting other gay men on their erotic and personal journeys.

    If something in you resonates with this invitation, you are welcome here. We are all erotic beings—each worthy of presence, devotion, and care.

    Questions? Reach out to: hello@iamreadyforgrowth.com

“For the erotic is not a question only of what we do; it is a question of how acutely and fully we can feel in the doing. Once we know the extent to which we are capable of feeling that sense of satisfaction and completion, we can then observe which of our various life endeavors bring us closest to that fullness.”

― Audre Lorde, Uses of the Erotic: The Erotic as Power

Your companion on this sacred journey.

Hi, I’m Stephen: an erotic guide and coach based between Fire Island Pines and New York City.

My own coming out began 25 years ago in a British boarding school—though this was not a joyful awakening, but a journey first marked by fear and shame. At 13, my body sensed it wasn’t safe to express desire. With no guidance or support, I buried my erotic energy deep within.

Over the years, as I slowly reclaimed my erotic self, I discovered something profound: that aliveness and desire are inseparable. That pleasure—when explored consciously and safely—can bring us home to who we are.

Today, I create sacred erotic experiences for men who want to explore their relationship to pleasure, desire, and self.

I believe the body is the gateway to presence and aliveness. When we tune into inner sensation—through breath, movement, sound—we begin to remember and reclaim who we are.

I’ve guided over 350 hours of private coaching, and trained with Aletheia Coaching, the Body Electric School, MMX, and ISEE’s Sacred Sexuality Instructor training (in progress through 2025).

Words of encouragement…

If something in you stirs as you read this—something curious, something tender—I encourage you to say yes.

It’s natural to feel excitement… or fear. All of you is welcome here.

It would be my honor to guide you, gently and lovingly, on this sacred journey of returning to your body and your soul.

With warmth,
Stephen

Reclaim your erotic self ✨

“Feeling good is not frivolous, it is a measure of freedom—not just the physical freedom of the body to pursue the pleasures of the flesh, but also the mental, emotional, and spiritual freedom to feel content, happy, and present in our brief and potent lives.”

— Adrienne Maree Brown, The Power in Pleasure

Disclaimer: This is a consensual, erotic container rooted in self-discovery and inner healing, not therapy or licensed therapeutic massage. You are paying for my time and presence; what unfolds arises between us in response to your intentions and the specific container boundaries I have laid out above.